02 Apr Where Are Your Thoughts?

She puts the kids in bed after a long day and is anxious to sit back with a drink and watch her favorite drama on TV.  She feels like this is exactly what she needs after a long day. 

The next night she opts to lie in bed and read a good book instead – one where a handsome young man comes and sweeps a shy and unsuspecting girl off of her feet.  She recognizes that these relationships aren’t pure, but she has told herself that it’s okay to watch or read about them because she knows that they aren’t real.  She has convinced herself that these activities are just a mindless way to wind down at the end of the day.

Unfortunately, she has chosen to fill her mind with thoughts about relationships that are impure and sometimes even adulterous, and as such, she has a very corrupted view of partnering.  She finds herself disappointed at her husband’s lack of romance and is beginning to find more pleasure in these fictitious relationships than in her own marriage.  She wonders why they have a lackluster sex life and why her husband isn’t pursuing her the way she thinks he should.  And yet at the end of every day, instead of taking interest in her husband or focusing on how she could be inviting towards him, she turns on the TV or curls up with another book, further alienating herself from him.

Philippians 4:8 tells us to fix our thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. We are not able to be the partner that our husbands need when our thoughts are in the wrong places.  We can’t be the wives that they deserve when we are only focusing on relationships that are completely contrary to what God has designed for our marriage.

What are you fixing your thoughts on?  Do you take more interest in a fictitious relationship than you do your own husband?  Do you need to cut some shows or books out of your life so that you can be a better partner towards your spouse? 

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