The Single Ezer

Since we launched the Ezer study and began using a common language to discuss Biblical femininity, the question has been asked, “why do single women need to be concerned with being an ezer?”  While it would be great if this was an uncommon concern and we all saw ourselves as ezers – created in God’s image to invite, nurture, and partner – this is not the case.

Part of the reason may be that the church as a whole (not just Grace) has overemphasized the importance of being a wife and a mother in regards to living out our core calling from the Lord.  In response, single women have diverged.  Either we feel devalued, incomplete, and unable to contribute because we are not married, or we elevate ourselves as singles and devalue marriage out of bitterness and anger towards the church’s position on it.

Neither response is helpful, correct, or holy.

We, as women, tend to be more dominated by our roles than our male counterparts, and this can become oppressive.  Singles, in particular, can feel constrained and limited by role and season.  Freedom from our roles comes when we gain clarity on our true calling.  That clarity comes through God’s Word.

Our calling as women created in the image of God is not dependent upon our stage of life or the roles we are playing.  We are called to invite, nurture, and partner with our brothers and sisters regardless of our marital status.

No matter your season of life, do you see yourself as an ezer?  How can you reach out to build relationships with women in different seasons than your own?

~Women’s Ministry Team